You Married a Sinner Not an Angel {& 3 Ways to Keep the Joy and Unity} 3 Ways to Keep the Joy and Unity in your Marriage.

Be a Confessor

Know your sin. Be honest with yourself about your weaknesses and struggles. Be willing to admit when you mess up, when you fail, when you sin and repent. Repent before God, but repent before your spouse as well. Make apologies when needed without excuses or explanations.

Be a Forgiver

In marriage we will be sinned against. We have all experienced this and it is our job to be forgivers. Jesus told Peter to forgive 70 x7 times (Matt. 18:22 ), meaning infinitely. Why? because we have been forgiven. We have sinned against Christ more than any person will ever sin against us and he has forgiven each sin. We continue to sin against Christ and he continues to extend mercy, grace and forgiveness. Marriage is the perfect vehicle through which we can imitate God and live out the forgiveness we have been given by extending such grace to each other.

Be an Encourager

One of the blessings of being married is that you are not alone. Your partner is there to walk with you through all of life, and they need you and your words of grace as much as you need theirs. As a Christian this is not our real home, we are passing through and the journey is hard. We must learn to speak words of kindness and encouragement to our spouses because these words blossom into motivation and earnestness as we fight sin together in order to bring honor to our Savior.

Marriage is one of the most beautiful relationships on earth, but it is also one of the hardest.

Thankfully God is with us and for us, he will give us the strength and grace we need to handle hard days. The spirit will convict us of sins that we need to weed out and eradicate, and Christ has extended forgiveness to his children so we do not need to wallow in guit and sin, but can find joy and excitement to live for his glory together

6 Ways to Bring Lust Back Into Your Relationship

When the newness of a committed relationship wears off, we often get stuck in monotony. Couples may find that they go to the same restaurants, watch the same movies, walk through the same park, or take the same family trips every year. They may even have the same robotic sex in the bedroom. Eventually, you both grow tired and bored in your relationship—and consequently, you slowly drift apart.
But your relationship doesn't have to be another statistic! You can reignite the passion in your relationship today by incorporating these ideas into your daily routine:

Make Them Notice You
No one enjoys the same thing over and over again. You can regain their attention by making a small physical change that will catch their eye (as long as it's something you want, too!). For example, change your hair style, go from flats to heels, wear a sexier-than-usual dress to dinner, or wear red lipstick. Just do something totally out of the ordinary that'll be exciting for both of you. 

Keep (Little) Secrets
It's not necessary that you share every single little detail of your day at the office or at home. Obviously tell them what they need to know, but leave a little mystery to spark their curiosity. 

Surprise Them
Do something sweet and out-of-the-blue—like surprise them with tickets to a concert or make their favorite dessert. The more thought, time, effort, and creativity you put into it, the bigger the payoff later. You may just get a surprise of your own in return!

Treat Them as You Want to be Treated
Think about whatever makes you feel nurtured and cared for. If you would appreciate a back massage, a hot bath, or having your laundry folded, then do it for them. Chances are, they'll get the idea and do the same for you.

Get Your Sexy On
Anticipation and passion go hand-in-hand. If you are ready to get it on, shoot them a sexy text. There is nothing more erotic than receiving a hot message from your partner in the middle of the workday. And the language can be as naughty as you dare. 

Think Outside the Box
Most people would love to experience something new during sex, but they fear failure or "taking it too far." You can excite them by introducing a new toy, a flavored or heated lubricant, a scented massage candle, or any other new and creative idea. This will give you total control and leave you open to tease all of their senses.

 

3 Super Ways to Make Your Relationship Better RIGHT NOW.

Here are some simple ways of how others succeeded in creating more joy when they integrated these three tricks to boost their love life:

Laugh Together
We all love to laugh at amusing events and funny people. Laughter can chase worries away and make us feel better physically as well as emotionally. Science has discovered that when laughter is shared, it binds people together and increases happiness and intimacy. Laughter also strengthens your immune system and protects you from the damaging effects of stress. No wonder laughing together can enhance relationships!

Show More Affection
Sometimes when couples have been together for many years, they take each other for granted and only show off PDA when they feel like they have to (like kisses goodbye before work). And sex shouldn't be the only way a couple should feel connected.          Try this: When you're feeling affectionate, put your arms around each other and stand close together so that it feels relaxed and not too firm. Focus on their body touching yours, and enjoy the positive energy exchange without talking.

Surprise Each Other
You don't need to wait for a holiday or special occasion to do something nice for your S.O. Small, romantic gestures can we done anytime, anywhere—like a fancy dinner out on a random Thursday night or a box of their favourite candy. Just keep them guessing a bit so that when the surprise comes, they'll really appreciate how much you care.

40 Signs to Identify True Love

Is it True Love?

The tender affection that love brings has a way of encompassing everything. It takes you away into oblivion and keeps you wanting more. True love is always willing to last forevermore.

But every relationship endures highs and lows. That’s just the way that love goes. However, if it causes heartbreak and pain, then it may be fooling you.

 Here are fourty reasons why:

1. You’re comfortable with each other, no matter what others say or do.

2. Plans are made and kept, or the excuse is true.

3. Time is always planned and reserved just for you.

4. Your needs are a top priority over most people and things.

5. Begging or pleading is not required for affection.

6. Family, friends and work don’t compare to you.

7. Love stands up for you any time there is trouble.

8. Attention and awareness is freely given, and faults are ignored or quickly forgiven.

9. There are no secrets regarding your relationship and it’s good companionship.

10. You’re not left lonely or alone.

11. Good surprises, gifts of laughter and togetherness often arise.

12. You will always be welcomed in your lover’s company.

13. No other lover exists in the mind of your partner. There is no competition.

14. There is constant and consistent contact.

15. Love is not one-sided. If it is, or feels that way, then it’s likely unrequited.

16. Sharing is open, honest and without hesitation.

17. Your lover seeks to understand your problems and frustrations.

18. You are worth more than the cost of anything they could buy.

19. There are answers to your questions of where, when, how, or why.

20. No one walks away without a plan to return.

21. What your family and friends think does not impact your relationship.

22. You find comfort and clarity in your respective roles, and they make you feel whole.

23. Love doesn’t need to be chased, as it is easily found.

24. Your lifestyle doesn’t get in the way of a love which has no bounds.

25. It’s easy to forgive, forget and move on when something goes wrong.

26. You don’t have to buy anything to make someone happy or feel strong.

27. Mind, body and soul are appreciated and respected.

28. The relationship is worthy of safety and protection.

29. There is a deep and profound connection.

30. “I Love You” is easy to say when other words fail or get in the way.

31.    Connection: “My intention is to create a deeper connection and understanding between us...” Great words to use, especially in sensitive conversations. When we each have the intention to connect to our partners, rather than competing or furthering our own agenda, we can move mountains together. Holding the intention of connection is truly one of the characteristics of true love. Challenging conversations are softened, breakthroughs are made, and compromises are found— with true love intact.

32.   Comfort: “I feel as if I've known you forever...” These are sticky romantic words if they're said without heart, but to those who have really felt this type of inexplicable comfort or ease in another's presence, not only on the first date, but years later, it's definitely one of the characteristics of true love. What the comfort means is that our energy bodies are compatible, co-existing in our lives and our beds, in a way that feeds each of us, instead of draining. Karmically, there's likely a past life love, too...

33.  Collaboration: “Sweetheart, I am not the enemy.” We may want the same things, but sometimes ego-driven power struggles and unconscious defense mechanisms can get in the way. We're human after all! One of the characteristics of true love is treating each other as partners who seek ways to collaborate and cooperate in a win-win manner, rather than powering over one another and focusing on the sapping ‘win-lose’ energy of getting our own way. Cooperation is also one of the hallmarks of soul mates.

34.  Resolution: How do you handle relationship conflict? Is it one endless power struggle after another? Do you fight fair? Are you both able to display anger in a way that doesn't cut the other off at the knees? One of the characteristics of true love is resolving conflict in a way that's truthful, without resorting to righteous blame or personal character attacks. Not to say that it's fun — or easy. But in the end, conflict is expressed and resolved quickly and cleanly, clearing the air... so that you can get on with true love.

35.  Giving and receiving: The only match for someone who does not know how to receive, is someone who does not know how to give.

Read that again — slowly. Where do you fit? Where does your sweetie? I've left one of the most important characteristics of true love to the last: two people who both have the ability to give and receive in a relationship, creating equality, fairness and balance.

36.  True Love Is Patient: Patient means to be longsuffering, slow to anger, slow to punish   Patient with those who need to grow

Patient with the imperfections of others

Patient when mistakes are made.

37.  True Love Is Kind: Kindness means Carrying out acts that demonstrate loving kindness

Love seeks ways to demonstrate itself.

Love goes beyond what is “expected”.

38.  True Love Defends: Love does not attack, but defends. Love attempts to protect and defend.

39.  True Love Trusts: Trust means assuming the best about Someone, not the worst.

40. True Love Believes And Commits: Love Produces Strong commitment.

I’ve been in love, and I’ve also been fooled. You’re the only one who can determine what’s happening to you. If you find this list makes sense, then it’s likely you’ve experienced love. There are many things I could add, but most of us can recognize when a relationship is going nowhere or has turned bad. Unrequited love does offer hope, as it gives us the reason and means to cope. There’s someone for everyone, so never allow your hope to come undone. Just when you least expect it, I am certain you’ll find the one. In the meantime, let your mind be at ease. Live your life just as you please. If a love doesn’t work out, then remember it’s not all that your life is about. Count your blessings each given day and happily wait until true love finds its way.

BE AT PEACE WITH EVERYONE

“Go placidly amid the noise and the haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible without surrender, be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth quietly and clearly, and listen to others, even the dull and ignorant; they too have their story. Be yourself. Especially do not feign affection. Neither be cynical about love – for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment is it perennial as the grass. Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth. Nurture strength of spirit to shield you from misfortune. But do not distress yourself with imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness. Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here. And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should. Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be, and whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul. With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world.”